Time to let go.....Sean Delevan

For the better part of 12 years, I have fought to remain a factor in the lives of my children. I kept going when most people would have quit. This fight took it's toll several times and undoubtedly contributed to the poor health that I suffer from today.

I have amassed a decades worth of transcripts, documents, and petitions that made clear a single goal by my ex-wife and here husband: Terminate all contact between Sean Delevan and his children.

While there have been repeated assertions that this was not the case, the court records and transcripts show that at every opportunity before the court, my ex would try the exact opposite. There are no fewer than 8 times over the course of 10 years of family court petitions that it was directly requested to:

• Terminate all visits
• Terminate all phone calls
• End all contact
• Terminate all parental rights

At the same time, my children, family, and friends would be told that:

• We want Sean to see the kids but he is not responsible
• We never have tried to end contact between Sean and the children
• We always tried to ensure that Sean and the children have visits

When I managed to overcome all obstacles and self-destructive behaviors that arose from the pain of being denied access to my children, there obviously had to be another angle that would be used to try and strip all meaningful contact between my children and I. It was obvious that I was not going to provide any ammunition to my ex to use against me.

So the only thing left to come after me for was of course child support, as well as the arrears that have accumalated while I was desperately trying to adjust my child support obligation due to my injuries.

When I stepped before the court and offered to agree in full to a ridiculous amount that was supposedly owed, I then created another problem for my ex wife and her husband. It was obvious to the court, my family, and everyone who has been following my case that I was waving the white flag and was willing to simply let go.

I had told everyone for years that this case was never about support. The long term goal was always to terminate my contact with my children. So it was no surprise that the offer was refused by the opposition. You see, no matter how much money I provided, it would still do nothing to terminate the contact.

So what transpired in the courts played out exactly as expected. Not only was the offer ignored, but every effort was made to strike it from the record. This was a simple strategy that would allow my ex and her husband to continue the false premise that I do not want to support my children, while claiming that they ALWAYS wanted me to have a relationship with my kids.

When I blogged that the child support would be a tool that could be used to incarcerate me, many of my family members and friends did not understand how this could happen. It is very easy to explain and is pretty much a certainty at this point.

Remember, there was an argument before the court from my ex that there was no proof that I was disabled, while at the same time she collected almost $50,000 to date as a direct result of my disability. In the event that I am incarcerated, these payments would cease.

Then again, this has never been about money.

So back to the matter at hand. So how will my rights be terminated and how could this land me in jail?

My ex and her attorney have fought every offer to settle this case and are insisting that I PROVE I am disabled. Again, my ex is receiving monthly benefits from Social Security DUE to the fact that I am disabled.

This inconvenient fact is of no importance to the family court magistrate because she will simply refuse to allow any evidence that proves my disability status. We have already seen where the Magistrate has said that because the disability award letter is not "certified", that there is no proof I am disabled.

Of course this is the argument that my ex and her attorney dreamed up and the Magistrate was all too willing to go a log with it. The fact that the original ruling was submitted to the court in 2009 is no longer an issue because it has DISAPPEARED from my court file.

This in itself is not a surprise since transcripts have disappeared, video testimony has disappeared, evidence has gone missing, and every attempt to submit more evidence has been refused based upon it being a "3rd" party correspondence.

So here is what will happen. My ex and her attorney will almost certainly win the argument that I have not submitted enough proof I am disabled. I will be ordered to revert back to paying $190.00 a week support. The fact that I receive $1,100.00 a month will mean nothing to the court. To make matters worse, the Magistrate will almost certainly throw my ex and her attorney another bone and make this retroactive to 2009.

So the $50,000 I supposedly owe will become $75,000 to $80,000. Plus I will be asked to pay every penny of my disability to child support. Of course this is for my children to whom my parental rights have been terminated.

This will be a huge win for my ex wife not because of the $$$$ award but due to the fact that I will almost certainly be held in contempt of court for not complying with the order. The fact that I have no possible way of meeting this order is insignificant.

In the event that I am not jailed, my ex and her husband know full well that I will not be able to afford to pay to see my children each week. There is simply no way I can pay a doctor $50.00 an hour for the right to see my children, as well as the gas and other expenses. 

So this will be the ultimate win-win for my ex wife and her husband.

If i am jailed, it will not be at their hands and will simply be something along the lines of: We wanted you to see your father but he simply wouldn't comply with the order and the courts had NO CHOICE but to jail him. We gave your father EVERY chance to do the right thing but he refused".

Nice.

But wait, it does not end there.

If I am not jailed and I simply cannot afford to pay to see my children, the argument or rationalization will be along these lines: " We never stopped your visits with your father, he simply refused to come". "We want you to see your Dad but he does not think it is important to spend time with you". 

Even worse: "You know your father used to drink and party, I think that he may have fallen off the wagon and is choosing to spend time getting trashed as opposed to seeing you".

If you think the last one is far fetched, you don't know my ex. This is not only realistic but almost a certainty.

Either way, the goal of terminating my access to my children is guaranteed. 

Whether it also means the loss of my freedom is uncertain. That will be determined by the courts. 

One thing that is 100% certain is that if I was held in contempt, it could ONLY BE DONE if my ex requests or files a contempt petition. So any notion that: "I did not want your father in jail", would be a 100% lie.

But hey, why let something like the truth slow us down now right?

We wouldn't the 12 year goal of eliminating Sean from the picture to end when the finish line is within striking distance, would we?

No matter what happens, this is my last blog about anything court related. In case you haven't noticed, most of the other blogs have been removed. I have been blessed throughout my life and will focus my time, energy, and freedom on doing God's will.

I have been protected and taken care of up until this point and I have no reason to doubt that God has anything other than good things in store for me. No matter how I get there, I am sure that the end result will be EXACTLY as it was intended to be.

BTW, the Custody petition has been dropped. I have swam in the cesspool of Family Court long enough.

Sean Delevan